What should I do if I feel embarrassed to lose the gift from my family and friends? Bloggers reveal that "key repetition" is not trapped by human feelings

People will receive gifts from all kinds of friends in their lives, but many of them are actually useless or ineffective, and they will feel guilty if they are dealt with. In this regard, Yamada Megane, a Japanese blogger who advocated a simple life, pointed out in ESSE Online that after entering the age of 50, he has become more pursuing a lifestyle of "only having the necessary things" and is more able to leave others' gifts.

Yamada responded to his journey of leaving, and the turning point was to bravely handle the "received gift". She admitted that she could not lose the things given by others before, and she was always worried about "will you find out that you will be unhappy?" and "Will the other party get angry?" and was even more afraid of being considered a kind-hearted person.

However, when she really wants When she lived a life where she only had the items she needed, she realized: "Even if the gift was lost, the relationship with the other party would not break. If the other party was angry because I didn't keep the gift, it might not be a real healthy relationship. What I was trapped is not actually "items", but "emotional pressure."

She gradually dealt with items that were originally difficult to abandon, such as tea bowls given by friends and clothes given by her mother-in-law. Through repeated observations, she discovered: "If you are conscious of whether to lose something, it actually means that it is not something that must be kept."

It is difficult to abandon the gifts, but the human relationship

Yamada also mentioned that when many people face these human gifts, they actually feel dissatisfied with the "relationship" rather than the item itself; rather than being trapped by the item, it is better to say that they are trapped by the emotional relationship behind the item. Once you put down these bunches, it will be much easier to organize your homework.

Now, by destroying unnecessary gifts and memories, she welcomes a more refreshing and comfortable life space. It is no longer depressed by the "unable" pressure bundle, but depends on the real need and what the mind wants.